What annoys me the most,
About your mannerisms,
Is what I detest the most about myself.
So why do I persist,
In punishing you for my past?
It’s not your fault,
That you’re only human too!
I wish I could forgive myself,
I would also pardon you.
But I’m afraid that’ll never happen,
So I’m stuck with my prejudices,
And the prospect of profiling,
Anybody that reminds me,
Just a little bit of you.
By: ElRoyPoet © 2019
Commentary: One of the problems is that a lot of toxic relationship habits are baked into our culture. We worship romantic love—you know, that dizzying and irrational kind. Men and women are encouraged to objectify each other and to objectify their romantic relationships. Thus, our partners are often seen as achievements or prizes rather than someone to share mutual emotional support.
The number one mistake women make, when they begin a romance, is to allow their old failed relationships to have a voice in the courtship—when they do, their new relationship is doomed. Emotionally stable guys on the other hand, don’t suffer from these tendencies.
Could that be the reason why there are so many “InCels”—because there are too many damaged women in America? Is there a correlation between the number of loose women—and loser guys in the community? In other words, it’s a losing proposition to start off with, and then the mutual disgust and contempt sets in, leading to cynicism and rejection. The modern cliché: “Only the lonely can play”, basically means that if you’re a player, you’re destined to remain a swinger all of your life.
“Mrs. Eberstadt has written, with an embarrassing accuracy, how the go-go ’60s planted the seeds of this devilish, soul-killing angst our society is writhing under today. Her book “Adam and Eve after the Pill”. It connects the dots from the tearing down of not just American institutions, but a righteous and wise way of life. “Tearing down” was 14 train stops ago. We are flirting with the suicide of one of the grandest experiments in world history. Like a country of homicidal maniacs, we tear and rip at morality. We lunge for its throat.
Rage rules America. The country stumbles about, screaming, cursing, tearing at its own eyes. Murder. Wickedness. Loss of a sense of true self and purpose. What I find simply insane is how a good portion of the alleged grown-up population embraces oppression, the crazy notion that a politician or bureaucrat will have our best interests at heart. We’re awash in intellectual stubbornness, stupidity and phantasmagoria—the belief that the most preposterous falsehood is true. Wisdom is an endangered species.
Modern souls we, we laugh at the corniness of holy book-thumping ancestors with their tedious thee’s and thou’s. We long ago stopped scoffing at an ancient word—wicked. Today, “wicked” is something spectacularly yet subtly cool. The origin of “wicked” is unknown, but, first accounts connect it to the Old English term for a witch, a sorcerer, someone or some thing that casts a spell. “Wicked” appeared 119 times in the 1611 version of the King James Bible. Today, in the 2001 English Standard version, it appears just 61 times. And yet, I’d place a small wager that all of us, no matter what our religion, spiritual path or complete indifference, can, at the end of the day, ask themselves a simple question: “What did I do that was wicked today?”
It’s a darn squirmy word. Even on my best of days, I can look back at the end to reflect and wince. Yup. I did—something—wicked. Small, perhaps. But, wicked nonetheless. Mrs. Eberstadt tirelessly writes that while we’ve always had our dark side and darker urges, as a society, we’ve pretty much abandoned our acknowledgement of the wicked. In fact, we unknowingly worship—wickedness.” Excerpt from John Boston | The Fatal Social Disease of the Sexual Revolution
Forgiving someone who betrayed your trust isn’t easy. But you can start by following what many experts call the REACH model of forgiveness:
- Recall the event as accurately—and objectively—as you can.
- Then try to empathize with the person who did you wrong by looking at what happened through his or her eyes.
- Remember that forgiveness is an altruistic gift. Think about a time when the roles were reversed and someone forgave you.
- Commitment is crucial. If you spend too much time mulling over your plans before acting, you can stress yourself out even more. So follow through now: Tell a trusted friend your game plan, or work things out with your wrongdoer face to face.
- Then hold on to that forgiveness. Your pain is likely to bubble up again at some point, but when it resurfaces, remind yourself you’ve chosen to reap the rewards of reconciliation instead of sulking.
Excerpt from How to Forgive Someone Who Did You Wrong
“Sensuality often hastens the ‘Growth of Love’ so much that the roots remain weak and are easily torn up.” By: Friedrich Nietzsche
“Beware of those who weep with realization, for they have realized nothing.” By: Carlos Casteñeda
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.” By: Brennan Manning
“When a man cannot introspectively confront his negative thoughts and emotions, he will always be conquered by them, communicating without composure and hurting all those whom he loves.” Quote paraphrased from “Battle Cry” By: Jason Wilson