Me being perfect,
Won’t make you feel better,
If you’re not more perfect!
By: ElRoyPoet © 2019
Commentary: If I had a nickel for every time a relative has asked me: “why are you so slow, or why can’t you do better?”, I’d be a rich man. People usually complain when a family member asks for assistance. Some begrudgingly help, but the selfish ones avoid you or justify their lack of empathy by stating point blank, that they don’t enable anybody, implying that you’re lazy or dumb. They pretend they can disown you, because you didn’t fulfill your part of their imaginary agreement; as if having the same surname is a privilege you must earn and not a birth right you receive, for being born into the same family.
So let’s take a closer look at this contention: If I were more affluent, I wouldn’t need any relatives to drag me down. But let’s just say, that I was a billionaire and I felt sorry for them, because they weren’t wealthy. If I gave each of them enough money, so that they could be millionaires, they’d be dependent on me for assistance. Would that make them feel better, knowing that technically they were inferior to me.
I guess what I’m trying to say, is that you should feel honored, to help your relatives. You should be glad, you’re able to pay taxes and live in a prosperous country, that is able to support its needy citizens. Ironically if the tables were turned, you’d probably be depressed, due to your low-income status and for having to depend on the government for assistance, because chances are, your rich family poet wouldn’t give you the time of day.
“If you’re a perfectionist, that might mean you can be pretty hard on yourself. A mistake at work, for example, could result in some pretty negative self-talk or actions, like depriving yourself of a snack later that day. In other words, you’re punishing yourself. But self-punishment doesn’t encourage growth: ‘When you punish someone, that person doesn’t learn how to change; they learn how to avoid the source of the punishment.’ If you are the source of your own punishment then you learn to avoid yourself. This might look like overworking, overspending, or numbing yourself with excessive consumption of social media or TV shows.” Excerpt from This positive psychology theory will help you learn from your mistakes: ‘Punishment doesn’t work’
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.” By: Brennan Manning