Divided Kingdom

Just because I do, what I want to do,
it doesn’t mean—I’m always competent
in everything I do.

If you want to be with me,
you’ll have to decide now,
if your confidence in me is true?

I want somebody to love,
but I won’t pretend to be—
who you’ve imagined, I am to be,
for you not to leave me.

If you can’t handle this universal truth,
I won’t tell you the same lies,
like all those royal jesters did,
that came before me.

Don’t reproach me for being firm,
because I won’t tolerate it anymore,
but if you think you can do better than me,
you already know what to do.

You can get back into rotation
at the end of the duke’s line—
because in my castle I have rules,
and someone must fulfill the queen’s role.

I’m not a knight in shiny armor,
I’m just an honest man,
who has self-respect too,
and I don’t want you to ever again—
give me doubt, of why I chose you.

Simone de Beauvoir’s UNSETTLING Truth About Modern Love (A Feminist Philosopher’s Warning to Men)

Addressing DISRESPECT: why this is essential to relationship success

What MEN need to SACRIFICE for a RELATIONSHIP

Top 4 viewer comments:

“Males are hard wired with a higher capacity for love: physical (flesh), emotional (compassionate) and spiritual (faith). Female love is physical (flesh) and emotional (patriotism) only. Men who are separated from a spouse (when she’s obliged to leave) are several times more lightly to break down emotionally versus women. The reason for this is because a husband is supposed to be invested in his wife and kids, to insure his generations will continue. Women on the other hand must be resilient, because the show must go on, with her leading man if possible, but if not, with his understudy and so on.”
“I was in a beautiful relationship. I shared with her, some of my insecurities as the relationship grew deeper, however that eroded her interest in me over time. She had been an amazing partner and friend up to that day? After that turn of events, I sat down with my mom and explained to her what had happened to us, she immediately told me: ‘that I had made a huge mistake, and that I should now be mature enough to know, that you never share your insecurities or weaknesses with a girl, no matter how much love you believe exists in the relationship, she’ll lose interest, if she’s a good girl; or use it against you, if she’s a bad one’. Advice from a woman that had decades of successful marriage with my dad. Ignore all those female dating coaches that tell you to be emotionally open, share your pain, etc. I found out the hard way, that a man is absolutely never supposed to show vulnerability in front of women, because they just don’t understand!”
“She is challenging him, which is disrespectful to him. Why should anyone be entitled to challenge anyone, if not to shame or disregard their opinion, values, and ideas? If he allows her to challenge him, she won’t care about what he has to say and won’t even try to understand why he thinks that way. Because he will say whatever she wants to hear and become submissive. She will be the one leading the conversation and ultimately the relationship to its end, when she loses interest in him.”
“In the battle of the sexes there are winners and losers and if you can’t command respect from the onset, you don’t stand a fighting chance. Even though modern women feign that they want their prospective mate to only bring polite manners to the table, at the end of the day, all that hype goes out the window, when they fall for the smooth talker who can wield power over them, via looks, notoriety, money or dominion. That’s why it’s so important, that young women are taught by their parents, to not yield to their biological cravings, otherwise they will end up alone, bitter and cynical—if they allow themselves to be disrespected by modern barbarians who are only interested in toying with their emotions and then tossing them out to the proverbial ‘trash heap of losers'”.

Why WOMEN DON’T APOLOGIZE: understanding the nature of the problem

Op-ed: As we grow up, we often think of ourselves as the center of the universe. We believe that everyone around us is simply a supporting character in our own personal narrative. This sense of self-importance can be comforting, but as we mature, we begin to realize that we are not the main character in everybody’s story.
The hardest lesson that every young adult has to learn is that they are not the main character in everybody’s story. While we may have been the center of our enabling parent’s world growing up, as we branch out on our own, we come to understand that we are just one of many characters in the grand scheme of life.
It can be a tough pill to swallow, realizing that we are not the main focus of everyone around us. We may crave attention, affirmation, and validation from others, but the truth is that until we are in a legitimate, committed family relationship, our wishful thinking doesn’t really matter to anybody else.
We are the protagonist of our own story, with our own hopes, dreams, and struggles. While it is natural to want to be the main character in somebody else’s story, the reality is that we are just a piece of the puzzle in the lives of those around us. This realization can be humbling, but it is also liberating.
Once we understand that we are not the main character in everybody’s story, we can begin to focus on building meaningful relationships with others. We can learn to appreciate the unique roles that each person plays in our lives, and in turn, the roles that we play in theirs.
Ultimately, accepting that we are not the main character in everybody’s story allows us to foster deeper connections with those to whom we matter most. It teaches us empathy, humility, and the value of being a supportive and caring presence in the lives of others.
So, while it may be difficult to come to terms with the fact that we are not the main focus of everyone around us, it is an important lesson to learn. We are all interconnected in this world, each playing an important role in our human relationships. And in the end, that is what’s most important.

Women treat MEN the way men treat JOBS: how relationship goals change the dating process

“Beware of those who weep with realization, for they have realized nothing.” By: Carlos Casteñeda

“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.” By: Brennan Manning

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18