The Contract
To you I may not be a handsome man,
and to me you might not be a pretty woman.
But that’s okay; all I’m looking for is a lady
who is easy on the eyes and not stern-looking.
Youth ages and beauty fades,
and we’re not getting any younger.
But in the end, all we can hope for
is to be able to sit next to each other
and have a pleasant conversation.
The only requirement I have
is that you will be a faithful wife,
so that I can keep my promise.
How can that be so hard?
Many generations before us were able.
I know there will be good days
and not-so-good days,
but as long as we can get along,
isn’t that much better than ending up alone?
Close Enough to Perfect
Am I close enough to perfect for you? Even though nobody appears to be compatible with me, you see, love is not about whether someone is compatible with you. All that is required is a willing partner of the opposite sex. Love is about commitment because it’s really up to us if we want to be compatible with each other.
Compromise
The more time you spend with your opposite, the more you will discover that you have more things in common. And if you spend even more time with her, you will find that you have fewer differences.
The Seasons of Love
If you are still alone,
it doesn’t mean your boat has sailed;
for there are many fish in the sea;
you just have to cast your net again.
In your twenties, love is a spark,
a dance of laughter, late nights, and dreams.
With every heartbeat, innocence beams—
the world feels limitless, bursting at the seams.
In your thirties, love deepens, roots entwine;
friends become lovers, sharing hopes and tears.
The passion ignites, but stability endures—
two hands joined together to navigate the years.
In your forties, love is an acquired taste,
a plate filled with wisdom, patience, and grace.
With life experiences and stories to share,
and gratitude in every embrace.
In your fifties, love transforms yet stays bright,
a comforting warmth in the dusk’s gentle glow.
Companionship deepens, joy echoes still—
together you wander, as memories flow.
So cast your net; let the seasons unfurl—
it doesn’t matter if love blooms early or slow.
Companionship’s woven in God’s grand design;
seek it, embrace it, and dare your heart to be bold.
Love Makes Us Better
People are the same all over the world. The only difference is that we behave differently when we’re in love! When a lover stretches out his hands and offers his heart to her, he soon realizes how vulnerable he has become because he’s hoping she’ll be careful and not drop it. Whether it’s by accident or on purpose, the heartbreak is still the same.
Edited by: ElRoyPoet, 2025
“Reminiscing” cover song by: The Hindley Street Country Club
“Do not do or cause your beloved to do anything that will impede the flow of love.” Do not do or cause your partner to do anything that will impede the flow of communication. If the river is dammed, you or your partner will either drown or die from thirst, depending on which side you’re on. Think about it today; I thought about it too late! By: ElRoyPoet
“Fearlessness is what love seeks,” Hannah Arendt wrote in her magnificent early work on love and how to live with fear. “Such fearlessness exists only in the complete calm that can no longer be shaken by events expected of the future… Hence the only valid tense is the present, the Now.”
This notion of presence as the antidote to fear and the crucible of love is as old as the human heart, as old as the consciousness that first felt the blade of anticipatory loss pressed against the exposed underbelly of the longing for connection. Excerpt from The Four Buddhist Mantras for Turning Fear into Love
“To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen… Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love!” Excerpts from “To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love.”
Op-ed:
As we grow up, we often think of ourselves as the center of the universe. We believe that everyone around us is simply a supporting character in our personal narrative. This sense of self-importance can be comforting, but as we mature, we begin to realize that we are not the main character in everyone else’s story.
The hardest lesson that every unmarried adult must learn is that they are not the main character in everyone else’s narrative. While we may have been the center of our enabling parents’ world growing up, as we branch out on our own, we come to understand that we are just one of many characters in the grand scheme of life.
It can be a tough pill to swallow, realizing that we are not the main focus of those around us. We may crave attention, affirmation, and validation from others, but the truth is that until we are in a legitimate, committed family relationship, our wishful thinking doesn’t really matter to anyone else.
We are the protagonists of our own stories, with our hopes, dreams, and struggles. While it is natural to want to be the main character in someone else’s narrative, the reality is that we are just a piece of the puzzle in the lives of those around us. This realization can be humbling, but it is also liberating.
Once we understand that we are not the main character in everyone else’s story, we can begin to focus on building meaningful relationships with others. We can learn to appreciate the unique roles that each person plays in our lives, and in turn, the roles we play in theirs.
Ultimately, accepting that we are not the main character in everyone else’s story allows us to foster deeper connections with those to whom we matter most. It teaches us empathy, humility, and the value of being a supportive and caring presence in the lives of others.
So, while it may be difficult to come to terms with the fact that we are not the main focus of everyone around us, it is an important lesson to learn. We are all interconnected in this world, each playing a vital role in our human relationships. In the end, that is what matters most.
“Beware of those who weep with realization, for they have realized nothing.” By: Carlos Casteñeda
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.” By: Brennan Manning
The difference between healthy and unhealthy love
Commentary from YouTube video: In my experience, women thrive in relationships with clear boundaries. My ex-wife and I struggled because we didn’t set strong enough limits, which contributed to her feeling unfulfilled and led to her infidelity. After our separation, I recognized both of us needed to learn about partnership. When I started dating again, I faced similar challenges with a new partner who struggled with self-care and household responsibilities. We parted ways, but during our time apart, she acknowledged her need for growth and returned wanting to reconcile. Now, I understand the importance of setting clear expectations and communicating openly. A healthy relationship requires both self-improvement and understanding, where both partners feel valued and empowered.
“When there are rules without a relationship, resentment arises. When there is a relationship without rules, rebellion often follows. However, when there are rules within a relationship, there you will find contentment.” By: Dr. Henry Cloud
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